As I move on from a mangled start to life, my goal for the rest of my existence is to be the best version of myself I can. Not an easy task for anyone with so much negative energy around these days.
But alas, there is still so much good in the world if we intentionally look for it.
I’ve learned the hard way by having battled my way through depression for 20+ years.
Loss of parents, mind blown apart by hap hazzard therapists (it’s good to talk when to tell the right person!) and starting my own business, all events to test your mettle.
But in the words of my late old man, “It’s a great life if you don’t weaken”. A phrase he repeatedly said whenever life had a pop at him.
In many ways that was his shortcut version of Rocky’s infamous chat to his son.
You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody!
Hence a mess or perception. Because what I’ve learned, it really does all come down to that.
Nearly every single book I’ve read on the subject concluded that it’s a shift in mindset that alters your reality, the event itself. In a world where victimhood is promoted, it’s getting far to easy to banish resposiblilty and lay blame at the feet of those who raised us.
We Tell ourselves stories what we would have been if only this or that did or didn’t happen. I’ve wrestled with that mind virus since 2002 when I was stripped down to psychological bare bones, my parents demonised and every single aspect of my life thrown in the bin.
I’ve also played my part in that too….so it’s my responsibility to fix it.
So that’s me, an average bloke with a long string of fuck ups I’m trying fix in my own way, putting my best foot forward, one step at a time.
© Pete J. Coleman 2025
